Sexual Health & Emotional Connection
We're having the best intimate time of our lives.
We're much more aware of each other's sexual desires.
We're much more confident and comfortable with each other.
We're engaging much more often.
It's the most pleasure we've ever felt.
The Wingman system requires the deepest possible emotional connection between partners.
The more stimulating the content you make, the more it will enhance your cardio workouts, but the more vulnerable it will be to create.
Before you film, you'll likely find an emotional cleanse must happen, or else both parties won't feel completely comfortable.
You'll probably have to talk about why this will replace something else in your life.
You'll have to fully understand why watching sexual video content of other people is wrong.
For me, I had to learn about the rubber hand illusion.
Imagine you're sitting at a table with outstretched arms and a rubber hand is placed where your left hand should be.
Your actual left hand is hidden from your sight further to the left behind a curtain.
Someone then rubs a feather on the rubber hand you see, and simultaneously rubs another feather on your actual hidden hand.
Then, someone hits the rubber hand with a hammer, and you jump back in pain.
Your brain imprinted the rubber hand as your own.
If you watch sexual content online, while simultaneously touching yourself, you're imprinting someone else's body as your own.
When that man sexually engages with a woman, it's as if you're doing it.
Psychologically, this is lust for another woman.
It's important to establish an ethical standard for lust to live by.
Job in the Old Testament said that his wife should be able to sleep with other men if he lusted for other women.
Jesus said if your eye causes you to lust, you should gouge it out.
Lust is dangerous. It pushes you and your partner apart.
The attraction you feel for the opposite sex is normal, it brings men and women together, but it becomes a problem when it opposes monogamy.
When the number of sexual partners goes up, even virtual partners, the quality of sex goes down.
Women don't like competing with other women for attention. They want to feel like they're enough.
In fact, they desperately want to feel as beautiful as a rose, which is extraordinarily difficult to accomplish.
Do not underestimate how beautiful a woman wants to feel.
If you watch other people having sex online, she doesn't feel beautiful.
In the bedroom, she's not giving her best effort because she knows you're watching other women.
Women know everything.
The most stimulating sex is comfortable sex, which only happens when you eliminate lust.
Once you establish an ethical standard on lust and understand why it's not constructive, you and your partner will likely need to talk.
Trust has to be rebuilt. Don't be scared, it can be rebuilt, but you'll have to put everything out on the line.
If you're actually sorry, she'll know.
Eyes are windows to the soul and women can see the soul of men.
This process will be uncomfortable, but it's the best thing you'll ever do for your relationship.
When your partner realizes your sexual focus is solely on them you'll connect deeper than before.
A new trust will develop that wasn't there before.
You'll begin to realize why you're together in the first place.
Things from the distant past will start to connect to why you're here now.
Experiences from your childhood and adolescence forged what you wanted in a partner.
Traits you definitely wanted, and definitely didn't want.
Your emotional connection will connect the past to the present, and make you excited about the future.
You'll start to feel like you're actually fused as one flesh, and it's for a reason.
You'll feel less irritable.
You'll feel less pressure.
You'll feel deeply loved.
Love is patient, love is kind, but love is also deeply vulnerable.
The vulnerability is required for us to grow.
When we actually grow, we create the fruit of God.
Do you notice people "working" but they're not really producing anything useful?
This isn't what God intended.
God wants His fruit.
He made mini creators in His image and He's waiting for His product.
We're the only animal that can create like the Creator.
He didn't make all these elements and wait 14 billion years for iPhones.
He wants something physically made with His elements and all of a sudden we've stopped innovating.
This isn't just about you losing weight, having good sex, and feeling good about your relationship.
This is about allowing the system God created to work properly again, for humanity to move forward.
Our lust is holding us back.
Men are designed to create, and women are designed to tell them what to make.
Men and women must fully fuse as one flesh for humanity to flourish.